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Education Focus: Prom

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For this week’s Education Focus, we’ll take a look at a quintessential American school experience:  Prom.

Prom comes from the word “promenade.”  It is one of the major high school dances held in the year.  It is sometimes referred to as the senior prom, as it typically marks one of the final social events in a high school student’s career, but sometimes there are other students (for example, juniors) who attend as well, as long as one of the couple is a senior.  Most often, a boy will ask his steady girlfriend to the prom, but sometimes a couple will go as “just friends.”

Prom is a formal dance.  Girls usually wear a fancy, expensive dress and get their hair done professionally at a beauty salon.  To go with his date’s dress, a boy will get her a corsage, often worn on the wrist.  Boys, on the other hand, rent a black or white tuxedo.  His outfit is completed with a boutonniere from his date.  Many parents will take pictures of the couples before they ride off in a hired limousine to take them to the site of the prom.

Sometime the prom is held at an outside venue, like a banquet hall, but of course such an arrangement would add to the cost of the ticket, so to keep it affordable for most students, many schools opt to have the prom in the school gymnasium, which is decorated for the big day.  Food may be served, but the focus on the evening is on dancing.  There are often other activities at prom, such as voting for a prom king and prom queen.

Afterwards, there is often a post-prom party.  These are usually chaperoned, to help reduce the incidence of teenage drinking.  Post-prom activities range from bowling parties to picnics at a park, or even a trip to an amusement park.  Many students look back at prom as a highlight of their high school years.

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Education Focus: Turnabout

Girls asking boys out

Hey, do you want to go to the dance with me?

Today, let’s look at a relatively recent custom to have emerged at many American high schools:  the Turnabout Dance.  The Turnabout Dance may go by different names at different schools, but the basic idea is the same – it is a dance where the girls ask the boys out, instead of vice versa.  Turnabout is a semi-formal dance:  it is not as informal as a Sadie Hawkins dance, and not as formal as Prom.

Since the girl gets to ask the boy to go to the dance with her, she is then responsible for the other aspects of the date:  picking the boy up and paying for the dance, as well as any post-dance activities, such as dinner.  The advantage of Turnabout is that it gives girls who might otherwise be “wallflowers” (someone who doesn’t get asked to dance) an opportunity to go on a date, instead of waiting around and hoping that a boy would notice them or ask them out.

Sometime a group of girls might decide to double date (two couples going out together) or group date (more than two couples going out together) in conjunction with going to Turnabout.  This can be beneficial to all involved, because it is usually less stressful than a traditional one-on-one date, especially for first dates.  Parents also generally prefer group dates for their teens, because it helps to reduce the temptation for teens to get in trouble or make mischief.

An alternative to Turnabout is for the girl to ask the boy to go with her on an alternate activity, such as bowling or skating, or some other pastime that can be enjoyed by a group of teens.  Afterwards, they may go out for pizza or dinner afterwards.

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Education Focus: Dances

One of the premises regarding the modern American educational system is that education has a social component in addition to academic instruction.  In keeping with this philosophy, many schools host dances for their students, generally staring in middle school.

In middle school, dances tend not to be formal – there are usually no set dates, so boys and girls can go “stag” – the girls don’t have to wait around for a boy to ask them to the dance, and boys don’t have to stress over getting turned down by a girl.  Also, at middle school dances the music is generally not performed by a live band, but comes rather from students’ music collections.

In high school the dances tend to be more formal, although there are a few that are decidedly not formal.  Also, in high school the music is more likely than in middle school to be performed by a live band, but of course it depends on the budget of those organizing the dance.  The boy usually asks the girl to the dance, but there are a couple of notable exceptions to this:  a Sadie Hawkins dance (non-formal, based on a comic strip character who couldn’t find a beau, so she chased the eligible bachelors) and a Turnabout dance (formal).

The number of dances each year varies from school to school, but there are two big dances that are a nearly universal experience for every American high school:  the annual Homecoming dance, and the annual Prom.  We’ll have more to say about these special dances in future Education Focuses.

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